Ken Wilber on Forgiveness

From Ken Wilber's Grace and Grit:

I always liked the Course’s reliance upon forgiveness as a way to remember the true Self. This is a somewhat unique approach, found in a few of the other great wisdom traditions, which usually stress some form of awareness training or devotion. But the theory behind forgiveness is simple. The ego, the separate-self sense, is not just a cognitive construct, but also an affective one. That is, it is propped up not just by concepts but by emotions. And the primal emotion of the ego, according to this teaching, is fear, followed by resentment. As the Upanishads put it, “Wherever there is other, there is fear.”

In other words, whenever we split seamless awareness into a subject versus an object, into a self versus an other, then that self feels fear, simply because there are now so many “others” out there that can harm it. Out of this fear grows resentment. If we are going to insist on identifying with just the little self in here, then others are going to bruise it, insult it, injure it. The ego, then, is kept in existence by a collection of emotional insults; it carries its personal bruises as the fabric of its very existence. It actively collects hurts and insults, even while resenting them, because without its bruises, it would be, literally, nothing.

The ego’s first maneuver in dealing with this resentment is to try to get others to confess their faults. “You hurt me; say you’re sorry.” sometimes this makes the ego temporarily feel better, but does nothing to uproot the original cause. And as often as not, even if the person does apologize, the likely result is now hatred of them. “I knew you did that to me; see, you just admitted it!” The fundamental mood of the ego: never forgive, never forget.

What the ego doesn’t try is forgiveness, because that would undermine its very existence. To forgive others for insults, real or imagined, is to weaken the boundary between self and other, to dissolve the sense of separation between subject and object. And thus, with forgiveness, awareness tends to let go of the ego and its insults, and revert instead to the Witness, the Self, which views both subject and object equally. And thus, according to Course, forgiveness is the way I let go of my self and remember my Self.

Heaven and Hell

This is a quote by Ken Wilber from the forward to Caroline Myss' book, Entering the Castle:

"Hell is identification with the outer self. Hell is not a place; hell is not somewhere that we go when we are dead; hell is not punishment handed out to us by something or someone else -- it is rather our contracting, sinning, separating activity of choosing the wrong self to identify with. We identify with that which we are not, we identify merely and only with the empirical ego, the self that can be seen; and that puny, finite temporal, limited, and lacerating identity is nothing other than hell. Hell is a horrendous case or mistaken identity. We have forgotten who and what we are, a transcendental self plugged straight into spirit, speaking with the words of God and shining with the radiance of the Goddess. But we identify only with the finite self, the objective self, the self that can be seen, and not the self that is the seer, divine and infinite and eternal.

Heaven is the discovery and realization of the inner divine self, the supreme identity. The mystics East and West have long proclaimed that the Kingdom of Heaven is within -- because the simple fact is that I AMness is Christ Consciousness, spirit itself, the Godhead in me and as me. The true self in each and every one of us is the true self that Jesus of Nazareth realized -- "I and the Father are one" -- and that realization, quite simply, transformed him from a temporal Jesus into an eternal Christ, a transformation that he asks us to remember and repeat ourselves.

Of course, this does not mean that my empirical ego is Christ, or that my personal self is Christ. To believe that is, indeed, a schizophrenic delusion. Nobody is saying that my personal self is spirit, but rather that the transcendental witness of that personal self is one with spirit in all beings. Your transcendental self is Christ; your personal self is you."