From On Becoming an Alchemist: A Guide for the Modern Magician
by Catherine MacCoun, p. 135
"I've recently discovered a quick way back to the driver's seat when I fall into passenger mentality. Maybe it will work for you, too.
A year ago I found myself embarking on an enterprise that scared me. I wasn't at all sure whether I really ought to be doing this thing, and my desires were equally murky. "Destiny," though, was acting very sure of itself, maneuvering me through an uncanny series of coincidences into what "they" had planned for me. (Who "they" might be was undefined, as it so often is in passenger thinking.)
While describing my predicament in a letter to a friend, I found myself listing the events leading up to it in chronological order. The narrative was in passive voice, i.e., sentences that describe what is being done without naming the doer. Since good writers frown on passive voice, and I like to think of myself as a good writer, I thought I'd better correct this. Then I got the bright idea of recasting each of the sentences with myself as the doer. I described the entire sequence of events as if I were the mastermind behind each and every step. 'First I arranged to be out of work. Then I arranged to own more taxes than I had funds to pay. Then I prompted so-and-so to phone me with a job offer...' Ten steps later, the sequence concluded with, 'And that's how I tricked myself into doing exactly what I want to do.'
I suspect it's no coincidence that, immediately after I had edited my way into driver mentality, circumstances changed for the better. The doubtful enterprise took off, and I felt a lot more confident about my decision. You might want to try this technique the next time you're feeling jerked around by fate, destiny, karma, or whatever else you happen to call your passenger vehicle."