Every woman must find a clear and clean connection to her body and the full range of her feelings before she can trust her own intuitive capacity. A woman must learn how to give voice to her emotional position without the messiness of an undifferentiated mood - or the fear of revealing her power. We have to learn to like the sound of our own voice, teaching ourselves not to allow it, neglected, to become wistful, strident, or faint. We have to develop the courage not to apologize when we realize that others disagree or know more. As females in a male-oriented culture, we each must learn how to recognize and value our own genuine innocence without trading in the counterfeit coin of seductive stupidity or contrived helplessness to conceal our fear of rejection.
At times, we simply will not know how to articulate what we are truly feeling until we express ourselves exactly as it comes out. It is a gift of maturity to be willing to assert yourself, name your feelings, and then say, "No, that is not exactly it. I want to restate myself." No apology, no embarrassment, no defensiveness, no lies.
~ Women's Intuition by Paula M. Reeves, Ph.D.
It sounds like we just need to learn to be ourselves.
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